I remember my heart pounding; I could feel it through my chest. There was a tug-of-war going on inside my brain of “should I or shouldn’t I?” I peeked out my bathroom window and saw all the ghosts and goblins trick-or-treating down my street.
Nope, I wasn’t afraid of their Halloween costumes, but rather, my own. I was terrified of wearing my hair topper for the first time.
Throughout my pregnancy, I told myself that as soon as I had my son, I’d start wearing hair. You might remember when I posted about my first day at work wearing hair. Debuting hair post-baby was the perfect time to do so, especially at work. I was taking 12 weeks maternity leave, so a considerable amount of time would have passed before people saw me again. My body would change drastically, so maybe the hair wouldn’t be as noticeable. You get the idea. It actually went over amazingly well.
But this was the first, FIRST time I’d be wearing a hair topper. I wouldn’t be seeing anyone aside from a few neighbors, but I was still crazy-nervous. I HAD to go through with it, though. I couldn’t tell my almost-3 year old that “Mommy was too scared/nervous/paranoid to go trick-or-treating”, could I?
So, I peeked one last time in the mirror, took a deep breath, and NEVER LOOKED BACK.
Here I am, Halloween 2013, 10 minutes post-bathroom-panic attack, with my then-one-week-old son. We were trick-or-treating with my (not pictured) toddler. I wasn’t collecting candy for the newborn. I swear.
It’s hard to believe I’ve been wearing hair for an entire year, and today I’d like to share some revelations I’ve had about it.
Wearing hair is not as hot as I thought
This was a big one for me, mainly because I live in the South. I think the first few times you wear a hair topper or a wig, you are very aware of what’s on your head. Combine that anxiety with summer-like temperatures (also, in my case, post-partum hormones) and the fact that your body temperature has risen by a few degrees is no surprise. You feel HOT. The first few times I wore hair, I was sweating. But after a week or so, nada.
I’ve survived a full-on 95+ degrees-with-horrible-humidity summer without so much as a second thought.
Fake hair really does become a part of you
Readers email me and ask all the time if my hair toppers really feel like an extension of me. They don’t just feel like an extension of me, they feel like they BELONG on me. After just a few days of wearing hair, I no longer felt like i was wearing hair. Much like with the heat, I never gave it a second thought, because it never enters my mind.
As I sit here typing this post, I’m willing myself to FEEL ANYTHING on my head right now, and I’m happy to say, I just don’t.
Normal life resumes, even with helper hair
I’ve worn my topper: on roller coasters (and don’t see why you couldn’t wear a wig on one), parasailing, on a boat, splashing around the pool, to the beach, to get my eyebrows waxed (funny story there, for another post, though), etc. Life goes on with helper hair.
And yes, through any activity my topper has stayed on, stayed secure, and stayed beautiful.
Researching hair is actually…fun
Most of my hair-related internet travels prior to wearing hair was centered around hair loss: supplements, drugs, causes, “cures”, diet…the list goes on and on. Now that I’ve decided to wear hair, my Google searches are a lot more enjoyable.
I love looking at styles I could try. Short one day? Sure, let’s give it a whirl. Long and layered? Why the heck not.
And colors…oh, the colors. I’ve always wanted to try out blonde. With a few clicks, bam, there’s one en route. Highlights, lowlights, ombre, red, purple…you name it, there’s hair out there for you.
I’m not “out” when it’s comes to wearing hair, so I can’t just switch out styles and colors on a whim like some other of my hair loss sisters do (I’m jealous), but how awesome is it to think you could try styles and colors you never could before?
My kids don’t give my hair topper a second thought
Ok, so they’re young, I get it. My now almost-4 year old sometimes asks me, while getting ready, “do you have to put your hair on?” He knows it’s part of my routine. I’ve never made a big deal out of it, so he hasn’t either. I’m sure as he gets older he’ll realize that not all Mommies wear hair. Or, maybe he won’t…I only don’t wear hair when I wake up and right before bed, so he likely won’t see many other Moms during those times.
I do have a feeling he’ll make some innocent comment at the wrong time that will prompt a raised eyebrow, at least someday. Hopefully a “kids say the darndest things” explanation will suffice. Ha.
My husband couldn’t care less
I was concerned when I first started wearing a hair topper that my husband wouldn’t like it. Meaning, if I was admitting that I had a big enough problem to wear hair, that he, all of a sudden, would also realize the problem.
He’s as blind to my hair loss as ever.
I usually wear a headband over my bio hair at night before bed, and I’ve never once seen his eyes rest on that area.
Clearly he knows I wear hair, and thinking about it takes up zero time in his life. He just wants me happy.
Plus, he kind of likes it – my bio hair is boring-brown, and he’d love for me to try a blond or red wig.
I know dating is a concern for women who wear hair. I’d imagine it would be a little unsettling to meet a guy you are interested in, and after a few dates figure out how to tell him that you wear fake hair. I have an idea of how I would do it if I was in those shoes, but, everyone is different.
Just know that I know several women who wear hair and date…and date successfully. It can be done.
YES, there are men out there who will not freak out about this, I promise.
A year in review: Final thoughts
There are a million other reasons I could give as to why wearing hair is awesome. These are just some of the more-holistic concerns I had when I was deciding my next steps, back in the day. I’ll share those other awesome reasons, sometime, too.
This isn’t a push to get you into wearing hair if you aren’t ready. I know many of you aren’t.
But, if the thought has crossed your mind, I urge you to give it a whirl. Try it around the house and see what you think. Pair some hair with some bright red lipstick (like I did) and see how it makes you feel.
You may discover a whole new world out there.