I had a zillion ideas of what next to write about, but I got a comment from Julia on my topper post this morning and thought the topics she brought up would make an excellent blog post. She had a bunch of questions of what it’s like to actually wear a topper, and I thought I’d answer those here.
How long do you wear your topper during the day? Do you want to rip it off by the end of the day or does it really feel like your own hair?
Interestingly enough, the topper I posted about is not one I wear very often. It was an experiment of sorts…I choose not to wear it very much because the color, while pretty, is different from my bio hair. This wouldn’t normally be a big deal if I decided to wear it full-time, but at the time, I was only playing around with it on the weekends. It would be a pretty big shock if I ran into someone with beautiful, thick hair on the weekend, only to show up at work on Monday with my crappy, darker bio hair.
I’m now rotating between two toppers (more to come on those later!). One is synthetic, and one is human hair. The synthetic one I tend to wear up in a ponytail quite often. It is a lightweight piece that has a small base, so it doesn’t bother me in the least by the end of the day. I wear both of them from waking up until bedtime. The human hair topper I have is larger and has more density in terms of hair, so by the end of the day I can “feel” that one a little more. It’s not uncomfortable by any means, I just know that it’s there, if that makes sense.
In terms of feel, the synthetic hair feels drier and coarser than my bio hair (but I’m not sure anyone would be able to tell if they touched it). The human hair, on the other hand, feels heavenly.
I hate taking them off at the end of the day, because I hate seeing what’s underneath them! Both of my toppers clip in, so after resting on top of my bio hair all day, my bio hair looks like a MESS underneath. It’s all bent in odd directions and the clips make it looks like I have bald spots. I don’t–it’s just the way it looks from being matted down.
Is it causing any addition hair loss where you clip it in?
None that I’ve noticed, yet. My pieces have clips in different areas, so because I rotate them, the clips end up hitting my head at different points. I think this helps.
I imagine wearing the topper gives you great confidence during the day; how do you feel after your take it off?
I’m pretty sure every time I remove it and look in the mirror, my husband hears a little sigh from the bathroom. It’s not the best part of my day, by any means, however, it is what it is. I know what’s under the topper, but after having pretty awesome hair for the day it’s a bummer to remove it (maybe someday I will bond my hair, then I won’t have to take it off!).
How do you feel in front of your husband going from one look to another?
My husband has been great. He knows how much the hairloss bothers me. Even though he insists that he doesn’t notice my loss (smart man), part of me feels like I owe it to him to wear a topper. Does that sound bad? He married me with hair, so I want to continue to give him hair! Plus, as my hair has fallen out, it’s made me feel much less womanly. Having hair again helps me to feel better about that, too.
When I take my topper off at night, I usually put my hair in a super-deep side part to help conceal the loss on top, and pin the side with a bobby pin. I then put my hair in a ponytail for the night. The loss isn’t super-noticeable this way. I would never wear it this way in public, but it’s fine for bedtime. I told my husband he should expect me to be in a big terrycloth headband soon; I think that will be my next step for bed.
Now that you have had the topper for a while – do you wear it every day?
Not the topper that I first blogged about, no. But as I mentioned, there are two that I wear full-time.
What challenges have you had while wearing it?
There have been a few. It takes ALOT of trial and error to get a topper to integrate naturally with your bio hair. I’m still not an expert on this; each morning it’s a bit of a struggle to get a tiny bit of bio hair out so that I can integrate it with the front of the topper. If I take too much out, the color is slightly off so it looks funny. If I take too little out, it looks more unnatural. I think anyone who wears a topper struggles with this, at least at first.
My other “problem” has been how to just waltz into a room with “new hair” in front of people that I am expecting will definitely notice. Mainly, my good friends at work. I haven’t experienced that yet (I’m currently on maternity leave) but it’s something that crosses my mind often. Do I tell them so I can avoid some stares? Will there even BE stares or am I just expecting some because I am paranoid?
What are the benefits and what are the cons? Were there any surprises good and bad that you hadn’t expected?
The main benefit is that for once in a long while, I feel normal when leaving the house. It’s also been fun to just throw it on in the morning (even over not-washed bio hair) and look instantly 100 times better. Having thicker hair up top also helps me to look thinner, which is a bonus.
I’ve also been open to being in more pictures. So often I avoid being in front of the camera…but I have kids and I want them to have pictures of me as they grow up. Now, I have more confidence to actually step in front of the camera with them–that was something I wasn’t expecting.
The con is that I am always on the lookout for the next new thing. Any piece I own is never going to 100% perfect (because it’s not growing out of my own head)…the color will never be *just* right, or the thickness will never be ideal, or the scalp-area may not be perfect. None of these things will ever be seen by the public, it’s just what hair-wearers experience on a daily basis. Those that wear hair can usually spot hair a mile away (no matter how good it is) and always fear that will happen to them, too. At least, I do. There are some people who just don’t care, but I am not there yet! But, I’ve found that no one ever notices helper hair, unless they themselves wear helper hair.
The other con is that it can be hot! I live in the South, and we are currently experiencing fantastic weather (high 70s/very low 80s)…however, we get very hot and humid in the summer. I’m honestly not sure how I will handle the heat when the warmer season rolls back around. Hopefully I will be used to the feeling of no air movement on my head by then (is that possible? I don’t know).
Well Julia, I hope that helps! Here is a pic of the topper piece I have on today (it’s the synthetic one). More on that to come. 🙂