Yep, it’s true. My hair stylist broke up with me when she found out I started wearing supplemental hair. And to make it worse, she did it over text.
So twenty-first century, don’t you think?
How the process with her works is you call and leave a message requesting your desired appointment time, and then she has her assistant call or text you back confirming the time. This time, though, I had another question to ask her.
Lauren: Hi Emily, thanks for getting back to me. Tuesday at 5:30pm works for me, but I have a question. Does Vicki cut supplemental hair?
Emily: What’s that? Would Vicki know if I ask her?
Lauren: I started wearing a synthetic hair topper on top of my regular hair to help conceal my hair loss.
Emily: Is it fake hair or something?
Lauren: Yes. Would she cut it to help it blend?
Emily: Your regular hair or this new hair?
Lauren: Both would need cut.
[A good hour passes]
Emily: Hi Lauren. I spoke to Vicki and she doesn’t do that. Good luck!
And just like that, my three-year relationship with my stylist ended. I know that’s not super-long by any means, but I really liked her since she was an expert at getting my hair to my ideal color (I’ve talked about it before – no gold, no red, just kind of boring-neutral).
I was really, really surprised (well, I was surprised but then not at all at the same time) that 1) her assistant didn’t know what supplemental hair was and 2) Vicki wasn’t even willing to try to keep a somewhat long-term client.
Since there are so many women with hair loss, I had assumed that they (and I say “they”, but I guess I mean the assistant) would at least know what supplemental hair was. Maybe it was the term I used, who knows.
Some stylists, too, seem to be nervous when it comes to cutting helper hair. I get it – I know if a mistake is made this hair doesn’t grow back. But, I have a need and I was bummed that it wasn’t being met. It was as if I had *finally* found my solution (hair!), but now I reached another stumbling block.
What’s a girl to do?
I became my own hair stylist.
It’s not perfect by any means, but it works. I’m also “blessed” because I wear my hair straight with some layers, so I use my bio hair as the bottom layer of my “do” and the topper just lays on top of that.
Check it out:
(Side note – seeing how long my hair is totally makes me think of the Amanda by Jon Renau. Check it out at wigs.com. I’ve tried this wig before and it looks exactly like my bio hair + topper.)
Aren’t you proud of me for using actual scissors this time (granted, they aren’t actual hair-cutting shears) and not manicure scissors? Eh, you make do with what you have, right?
For the record, most stylists can indeed cut wigs and toppers – I don’t think there are any skills necessary outside of the ordinary to do it (someone correct me if I am wrong!). The only consideration I’ve heard is that synthetic hair might dull scissors, so it’s recommended that stylists have a separate pair for cutting that kind of hair.
But, since hair stylist is unwilling to cut my hair, I have to make do. I think it looks pretty good for an at-home job.
I’m always surprised, too, at how much better my topper feels after I “fix” my bio hair. Even though my real hair is very thin and lifeless, it still helps to make my topper feel and swing better.
What do you guys think? Am I crazy?